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Wednesday, 1 February 2012

Sexism?! Calm down, love!

According to a news story that almost made me choke on the slice of pizza I was feasting on last night (bbq sauce, ham, and pineapple, you beast!), Brighton bus/taxi drivers have been told that they should refrain from using the words 'babe', 'darling', or 'love' towards female passengers, having received a complaint from a woman who stated that she found the comments sexist and offensive.

As I'm sure you have picked up from said choking incident, I wasn't best pleased by the fact that a) the council have asked drivers to refrain from using the terms, and b) that the woman in question, who, may I add, has sparked opinion columns in every national paper going, would even take offence to the words in the first place.

As far as I'm concerned, unless the driver is staring at the tatty-bo-jangles of the ladyfolk with intent, slobbering violently, moving either of his hands down south, or silently fantasising about scenes that involve sex swings and PVC, there's nothing sleazy about any of the 3 aforementioned words, and I can't help but feel that the darling who's kicked up such a fuss (like what I did there?!), is being ever-so-slightly-ridiculously over sensitive. Such words make me smile, and in my head, my general response is 'aw, thanks for noticing!', rather than 'oh my gosh, this man has just discriminated me because I've got a vagina!'

And that folks, is all I have to say on the topic. There are a thousand more things I could add to this blog post, but the national papers do it far much more justice than I ever could!

What do you guys think? Are you open to being called 'love', 'darling' or 'babe', or does it rattle your cage? Are you the woman that complained?! (If you are, please don't eat me for breakfast).



  1. OMG this woman sounds like a right idiot! The guy in my local chippy calls me 'love' as does the fruit stall man and I think it's nice and normal. I love it when I get addressed as 'Madam', makes me feel like Kate Middleton in a way. Hehe!

    Jeeze, can't believe she took it to the papers. Possibly has too much time on her hands and wee bit bored.

    Jen xx

  2. That photo made me choke on my drink, and it's now creeping me out!

    I get called love all the time and it doesn't bother me all that much. I'm not as happy about babe but would never complain about it! The thing that does bother me is when a customer uses my name (in the shop I work in, I realise that made me sound a little prostitutey!). I know I wear a badge but I don't know you, stop dropping my name into the conversation i know what it is! xx

    1. Haha yes!! I used to work in retail and it used to drive me absolutely bonkers when they used my name! As far as I'm concerned, they had no right to do so haha!!



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