Last week, I was presented with an opportunity that would have changed my life. To cut a long, wonderful story short, it was the most perfect career opportunity that has ever showed its seductive face, and I was convinced that I would throw my arms and legs around it like a crazed koala, and make it all mine, achieving one of my biggest ambitions in the process.
Unfortunately, despite how promising everything looked for me, the outcome did not go to plan, at all. Crumble, crumble, apple crumble. In one sunny afternoon, I morphed from a happy, confident, excited human being, into a defeated, blubbering mess, and spent at least two hours of the evening lost in a world of silent misery, convinced that nothing would ever make me feel better. Yup, the bitter disappointment that accompanies a missed opportunity is a hideous little beast, and in a situation of its kind, it is so easy to feel like your dreams are absolutely bloody pointless. Sigh.
However, not all is lost, because according to the continuing functionality of the human race, and the fact that I find myself as jolly as a galloping horse today, life does go on (pheeeeeew!), and that 'what could have been...' feeling is not an incurable condition. I promise.
So, my fine, talented reader-folk, here are some tips to cheer yourself up when you find yourself faced with a similar situation...
Have a good ol' fashioned cry. I'm one of those irritating people who bottles up their deepest thoughts and feelings 84% of the time. However, this time, I decided to break my 'I'M 'AARD' rule, and let it all out, mascara stained face and all. And hurraaaay, I think it actually helped. Granted, I ended up looking like I'd been dragged through a hedge sideways and feasted on by a wild boar, but I felt so much better. Sniffle.
Don't be bitter towards those that did better. It's unfair, and it's unnecessary. The chances are that they deserved it just as much as you did, so for the love of sweet chumhood, be happy for them.
Get naked and throw some hideous shapes. I'm a firm believer in the power of flailing limbs and awful dance moves, especially when times are tough. Trust me, life never seems quite so cruel after an atrocious boogie. Go on; I dare you.
Exercise. If naked dancing isn't quite your thing, then maybe standard exercise is. Those sciencey folk tell me that it's one of the finest stress busters there is. And if it involves a hula hoop and some cheesy 90s pop, then we're on our way to something pretty damn special.
Comfort eat. Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you to shovel the entire contents of your fridge into your mouth like your stomach is an endless pit (especially amidst all that calorie-blitzing), but I do think that an edible treat can work wonders in giving you a delicious cuddle from the inside. Mmmmm, porky goodness.
Spend some time with people that make you smile. Human beings are a wonderful, wonderful thing. Though you may not feel like socialising, you'll wonder why the devil you didn't when you're crying with laughter at your best friend's unconventional, sarcastic advice, or nestling into somebody lovely for a super spoonfest. (Especially, if like me, you're about 3ft tall and get to be little spoon all of the time).
Take as many positives from the situation as you can. Although you might find yourself temporarily dominated by a negative feeling (the Christian Grey of feelings, perhaps?!), the likelihood is that there's something positive to take from the situation too, whether it be a valuable lesson or experience, an ego boost, some brilliant contacts, or just the knowledge alone that you got as far as you did. Stop being so hard on yourself and give yourself a hearty pat on the back instead.
Believe in yourself. So one opportunity didn't work out? That, unfortunately, is just life. And as hard as it may be, it shan't be the last time it happens. Just remember that you are bloody terrific, and that sometimes great things fall apart for even better things to come together. Never, ever doubt what you can achieve; you can do whatever the devil you put your mind to.
Appreciate life's simplest pleasures. OOOOH, look at that! The cutest little birdie just fluttered by your window. OOOOH, look at that! A cloud? Shaped like a poodle digging for a chewy bone?! Wowzers. OOOH, look at that! A delicious, bearded man strolling around looking completely delightful. It turns out that there's always something to smile about.
Look to the future. Yesterday is not a day that we shall be seeing again. Lovely as it would be, we can't go back and do things differently. Instead, we have to pull ourselves together and start moving forward. When there's a will, there's a way. A-men.
So there we have it lovely people, some half-wise words from a very unwise blogger. Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? How did you cheer yourself up? Did it lead to better things?
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